The search for identity in “It's hard enough to be me” by Anna Lisa Raya, “Who will light incense when his mother is gone” by Andrew Lam and Amy TanIdentity's "Two Kinds" in America is becoming a global problem for everyone who has immigrated here. In all three essays I looked at, I saw the same question being addressed. It’s the theme of being treated differently and looked at differently. The stories tell how children come from different parts of the world and try to integrate into American society, but the parents do not respect the decision. Parents always want to continue their cultural traditions. In my three stories, they continually explore how difficult the search for identity is when they are young. The children are confronted with two cultures, that of the ethical tradition and that of the dominant white American youth culture to which they have been exposed. “It's Hard Enough Being Me” by Anna Lisa Raya, “Who Will Light Incense When Their Mother is Gone” by Andrew Lam, and “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan all show the common theme of disintegration into society. Enough Being Me” by Anna Lisa Raya tells the story of how young people have no way of finding a place for themselves that embraces their cultural identity while integrating them into white American society. Raya is isolated and struggles to mediate her cultural differences, or at least what she perceives them to be, and her attempts to fit into the upper-class, mostly white, American social structure away from his home and his family. For Anna Lisa Raya, her struggle in finding an identity becomes more difficult when she had to leave her native Los Angeles and came to New York to attend the prestigious Columbia Unive...... middle of paper.. ....go to I finish to make the point. Throughout all of my readings of the three stories, the common theme is being accepted in American society, making people who are not from it feel different. In all the stories, it is clear that everyone has their place in America, regardless of their past or the traditions or values ​​they carry. The first two stories are more based around finding a way to overcome the main image that is expected of them from their family. The third story, “Two Kinds,” features the mother trying to help her daughter fit in. The first two stories are about parents trying to put the child down because he just wants to fit in and leave the past culture behind. America has covered up its attempt to introduce the face of evil into society. America is considered by all immigrants as a country of relaxation and jokes..