John Bowlby says that children who cry, talk or smile are looking to be fed, to be held and made to feel safe, to respond to them to show they care, and to smile to find a smile again. (Bukatko, 2008) Also in an article published in Developmental Psychology, the author refers to a remark that Freud said in 1920/1955: "As long as we trace development from its final result backwards, the chain of he events appear continuous, and we have the feeling of having acquired a completely satisfactory, even exhaustive, vision. (Bretherton, 1992, p. 2) This is what she considers a “retrospective developmental approach to the origins of attachment theory.” (Bretherton, 1992, p. 2) Having good memories and a sense of security is a valuable thing. I'm sure I had good memories, but they are overshadowed. Babies and children absorb everything, remember some and forget some, but always seek approval and