Inside the house you have children - who, if they are adults - are also under pressure to get an education, a job, a house of their own own, and perhaps even pressure to settle down and start a family. . This can be compounded if the child is still living at home, which can add to the social stigma of not being able to cope or provide for themselves on their own. If parents live in the house, it can be stressful for them to have to go from being a mother or father to being treated like one of the children. They may lose their sense of independence and feel like a burden on the family. As you continue to examine the house, you may find that the marriages of the people who care for it are under strain. Questions like “Why can we take your mother in when mine is in a nursing home” or “Your children see your parents every day, why can’t we go visit mine every once in a while? ? It's easy to see how tensions can rise and this situation can become a stressor within the marriage. Another possible side effect of becoming a multi-generational caregiver is that it will take up a lot of your time, especially if there are extenuating circumstances such as illness. Having to go back and forth between doctors can quickly deplete personal days, leaving families to decide whether giving up a job is in their best interest. Since the start of the recession, the number of working women aged 45 to 54 has fallen by more than 3.5 percent, or about a million women, many of them leaving to care for a parent (Sarcey, 2014). This, again, can put a strain on a marriage when you lose income and the other spouse becomes the main bread.