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  • Essay / How I Met Your Mother - 519

    During the How I Met Your Mother episode, many conflicts and interpersonal communications take place. Not only in romantic relationships, but even in friendships or with someone who lives near you. You see how Ted deals with the obnoxious couple living above them, how Lily and Marshal go through a difficult argument, and how Robin and Barney avoid fighting. Many of the terms we learned in Floyd 2011 relate to the conflict in that particular episode. The demand-withdrawal pattern, symmetrical relationships, hostile couples, and compromises are just a few examples of the conflict and interpersonal communication during How I Met Your Mother. First, the request-withdrawal model, as described in our book (Floyd, 2011). The demand-withdraw pattern is “a pattern of behavior in which one party makes demands and the other party withdraws from the conversation” (page 359.) You see this a lot in Robin and Barney's relationship. During this episode, Barney explains to Marshall and Ted how he and Robin never fight. You find out it's because when one of them gets angry or upset about something and asks to talk about it, the other quickly avoids the conversation. Barney will leave just to avoid any argument, and Robin begins to undress to get Barney's mind away from the argument. You begin to realize as the episode goes on that this is an effective way to communicate conflict. At the end of the episode, they continue to fight because they find themselves in a situation where neither can get out of it. However, we are also dealing with Marshall and Lilly who, as we can see, have a symmetrical relationship. (Floyd 2011) states that a symmetrical relationship is "a relationship between parties of equal power" (page 364.) Much of the episode shows us how angry Marshall is because every time he eats something, he has to clean his dish. Without Barney getting into his head, a lot of what Marshall and Lilly were doing seemed just fine. When Marshall began to realize that this fight wasn't worth it, he and Lily began to compromise. (Floyd 2011) states that compromise is “a conflict management strategy in which stakeholders give up something they want so that both can receive something they want” (Page 375). When they made just this one argument, all the other little ones seemed to work too.