"Did you see what she was wearing? No wonder he assumed she wanted him." Does this sound familiar? This is the case for me. This is just a glimpse of some words and actions that are just the tip of the iceberg; we call it “rape culture.” Many people are unaware that this type of language, or behavior, exists. More and more people are aware of these kinds of things, but they don't find them inappropriate and see nothing wrong with a little harmless joke. The fact is that rape culture affects our lives, whether we recognize it or not. The term “rape culture” should not be part of our vocabulary; we as a society have allowed this, but this needs to change. Rape culture is visible all around us, it is present on television, in movies, in grocery store lines, in schools, and even in our own words that we use. every day. According to Elizabeth Plank, who has a background in behavioral science, "the simplest way to describe rape culture is to compare it to the nasty gum stuck under your shoe: you don't always see it, but you know it's still there. » Rape culture does not fit into a simple definition, it is a multitude of words, jokes, actions and lifestyles that promote or joke about sexual violence. Gray rape is an all-too-common phrase associated with the ever-changing concept of rape culture. . This is a rape for which there is insufficient information or evidence to support an impartial rape conviction. “If the lack of clarity around consent is normalized, rape can be excused as an accident – ​​simply a misunderstanding” (Alcid). It is much more difficult to prove rape if there was no prior violence. Some factors of gray rape are poor communication on the part of either party or deceptive actions, to name a few. Consent of either... middle of paper ...... allies. This is unacceptable. This is what remains of our society; victims who are blamed. I don't know what happened in our country to allow this problem to get so out of control, but it cannot continue. Works Cited Alcid, Sara. “Navigating Consent: Debunking the “Gray Area” Myth.” EverydayFiminism.com. np January 4, 2014. Web. April 24, 2014. Mosley, Walter. “Ten Things to End Rape Culture.” Co Ed . Rae Gomes. TheNation.com, February 4, 2013. Web April 11, 2014. Palmier, Dr. Tara J. “Our so-called “rape culture”” Avoiceformen.com October 29, 2013. Web April 11, 2014. Plank, Elizabeth. Rape Culture Is Pervasive – Watch Your Favorite Sitcoms, Prove It » PolicyMic.com. January 16, 2014. Web. April 7, 2014. Valenti, Jessica. "Why we need to keep talking about 'rape culture.'" The Washington Post. Washingtonpost.com. and Web. April 15 2014.