He compares the two when talking about a trip to the supermarket after a long day at work. He reminds his audience how unsettling it can be to "maneuver your junk cart among all these other tired, rushed people with carts, and of course there are also the glacially slow old people, the hovering people and kids with ADHD blocking the aisle” (206). It's a shopping experience that everyone can relate to at some point in their lives. Wallace states that this is just a default mindset that, of course, no one wants to admit to having constantly, mainly because of the negative connotation society gives it. If anyone were to state that they were annoyed by the old lady taking her time in the aisles or by the "ADHD kid", they would immediately be labeled as rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful. Yet Wallace tells his audience that sometimes they can control that, that they can show sympathy for the giant SUV that just cut them off on the highway, or for the old lady who might be taking her last trip at the grocery store. Wallace explains that thinking in this state of mind is not our unconscious thinking, and that to adopt this empathetic and compassionate stream of thought, "it depends on what you want to consider." (208). Informing his audience that awareness is key, Wallace also states that "you can consciously decide what has meaning and what doesn't." (208). Therefore, truly achieving this state of mind is in the eye of the