Learning about love and respect in The Joy Luck Club In Amy Tan's novel, The Joy Luck Club, the character An-mei learns to love and respect her mother. This essay will focus on the precise moment of An-mei's transformation into a strong and confident woman. Even though An-mei's mother was dying, An-mei's mother still believed in saving her by "cooking magic in the ancient tradition". in order to “try to heal his mother one last time”. This is how An-mei “came to love my mother”, “how I saw her in my true nature and what was under my skin, in my bones”. An-mei's mother "rolls up her sleeve" and "puts this knife on the softest part of her arm" and "cuts a piece of meat from her arm." An-mei “tried to close her eyes, but couldn’t.” An-mei saw that “tears were falling from her (mother’s) face and blood was dripping onto the floor. Even though Popo's mouth was "already too tight from trying to keep his wits about him," An-mei's mother "still fed him that soup." However, Popo eventually died. An-mei “could see the pain of the flesh” and “the value of pain.” She understands that this is how a daughter honors her mother. shou so deep that it is in your bones." She knows that "the pain of the flesh is nothing, the pain you must forget." When An-mei returned with her mother to Teintsin, she had an encounter with the second wife who gave him a pearl necklace Her mother reprimanded her for this: “what you hear is not authentic. She (second wife) makes clouds with one hand and rain with one hand. the other. She's trying to cheat on you, so you'll do anything for her," but An-mei "tried not to listen to my mother." In the end, An-mei's mother crushed the pearl necklace and only then did An-Mei realize that "the necklace that almost bought my heart and my mind now had a bead of crushed glass.” Her mother didn't want An-mei to let Second Wife "buy (it) from you at such a low price." An-mei would “always remember how easy it is to get lost in something wrong.” An-mei saw the truth beyond the surface with the help of her mother. After knowing what happened to her mother, An-mei saw how circumstantial her mother was..