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Essay / Happily ever after? - 762
It is a well-known fact that there is a high divorce rate in America. Gone are the days of happily ever after and until death do us part. Current statistics show that 41-50% of first marriages will end in divorce, 60-67% of second marriages will end in divorce, and 73-74% of third marriages will end in divorce (www.aboutdivorce.org) . Although there are many reasons why married couples file for divorce, lack of commitment, financial difficulties, abuse, and infidelity are the main motivations for the couple filing for divorce. There are people in our society who believe, despite these reasons, that it is morally and ethically wrong to divorce. Their belief is that it is imperative that the couple stay together and overcome their differences. They also believe that the divorce process has become easier; therefore, couples find it easier to divorce rather than spend time, effort, and money on marriage counseling. The number one reason a marriage can end in divorce is a lack of commitment from one or both spouses. According to Rebecca Harbauer, “commitment is the glue of a marriage…” (www.helium.com). In the days leading up to the wedding, both individuals generally experience enthusiasm and elation. However, soon after the wedding and honeymoon, the excitement begins to fade and the couple begins to fall into a pattern of daily living, or even boredom. Often… “one spouse does the majority of the giving while the other takes” (www.helium.com). Over time, if the donor spouse does not receive the same in return, they will soon begin to feel despair and resentment towards their partner. Therefore, they would rather divorce than be unhappy in their marriage. In today's society...... middle of paper ...... religious person, this is an unforgivable offense. If a couple is experiencing marital problems that cannot be resolved through counseling, then it is their right to seek a divorce. In some circumstances, physical and emotional anguish goes far beyond reconciliation, and there is no reason why a person should have to stay in an unhappy marriage. Everyone in society deserves love and happiness, and should not fear that seeking a divorce is morally or ethically wrong. Works Cited Bauers, Deborah and Rebecca Harbauer. “when the commitment to marriage is one-sided.” Np, and Web. August 5, 2010. "Divorce Rates - United States: AboutDivorce.org." About divorce laws, lawyers and family law: AboutDivorce.org. Internet. August 5, 2010. .Evans, Patricia. “verbal violence”. Np, and Web. August 5 2010. .